We all produce things. For all my fellow artists, when it comes to our work, we can be a little sensitive about it, and I would say especially writers because some inspiration of our work comes from personal and real-life events.
In a recent interview, I was asked, “How do you deal with constructive criticism from your colleagues?” I am sure you have encountered that question yourself when you’re going into an interview. I really think they ask this question to see your reaction.
Based upon my experience, from working in the fashion field to branding myself as a writer, I have to admit, it bruised my self-esteem when I first heard that my piece was not strong enough to engage an audience.
I pitched a story to a large digital outlet, that had a similar audience as Elite Daily, but more for a women demographic, and when she gave me her feedback, it stung. But she was being honest, and I don’t blame her.
Instead of the whole boo-hoo-why-me-solo-pity-party, I know what I have to do. Improve, obviously, if I want to continue to pursue the editorial industry, but also be meticulous about my craft. Continue to grow in all spectrums when it comes to writing.
Now, you may get the perception that I am being hard on myself, and not that is the case. I am just being real here. The purpose of the entry is to admit when you have made a mistake, or acknowledge your weaknesses. I have no problem taking ownership of my mistakes and identifying flaws (if any), to be better. The people who are making critiques are simply trying to help you strengthen your skills, essentially for your benefit.
From what I learned from organizing events and working with different businesses, you must learn to separate personal and business matters. When a constructive criticism is given – just take it. Learn from it. Don’t take it personal, and I know people find that difficult to digest.
In a sense, when criticisms are more on the heavier scale, like for a major project or event, to me that translates as rejection or failure. I don’t know about you, but I am still learning how to cope with rejection. Whether it be from dating or to not getting a job offer. It is all about toughening up, growing extra layer(s) of skin, and moving forward.
It’s funny how this entire adventure will speak volumes about personal development as well as making my career footprints. Only time and hard work will tell.
To be frank, I am getting better at building the whole thick-skin part – sort of, at least when it comes to job rejections and honest feedback of my work. It sucks to hear, but it only motivates me to work relentlessly.
Happy Monday, family & friends! I hope you are kicking off your week just right (:
*artwork by S.