a new york moment:

September 25, 2014

Remember when I said I had to “get used to New York” and all of its jazz? A Native New Yorker said there is no such thing.

You don’t learn to adjust, you just deal with it.

I am starting to find it normal when people are preaching about God in trains, random drag performances at Union Square, and the constant cab drivers honking for every little delay. Learning to navigate through the different neighborhoods, familiar with large streets and ushering myself through massive crowds like a pro.  Last week, I was in a meeting and she said, “You seem like a seasoned New Yorker.” I was pleased to hear that! Yay!

I had a New York moment: I was getting out of the office late from Fashion Week, nearly 3AM. The team requested me to take the cab home since taking the trains would be difficult – and trust me, after hours, trains are terrible.

You think by having a large transit system would help you get to point A to point B quickly, false. You cannot fathom how much I dread traveling from the West Side to the East Side. I live near the Upper East Side, and typically the commute is not bad to work. It’s a whole other story about getting on trains on the weekends and late nights.

buttAnyway, I got off to the main street, which was Eighth Avenue and there I was, stepped off to the curb and threw my right hand in the air. Within seconds, I see a cab dashing my way. I felt like Carrie Bradshaw.

Slid myself into the cab and gave him the intersections of my home. Off we drove off! There I was, smiling in the backseat. It is like a scene from a romantic comedy movie where the camera is really close to the protagonist when she’s leaning close to the cab window, smiling by herself? Yeah, that was your girl. 

I know the act is very minimal, but to me, I hailed my first cab! Not saying I’ve never taken a cab – I am saying that I never waved one down before; usually I just walk into one when it’s available, and that’s no fun.

So proud that I can do so and that I have transitioned so well that I appeared to be a ‘seasoned New Yorker.’

Just a side note before I officially close this post: you all seem so intrigued with my dating life – according to my stats, I had more views on my first date post than the previous post.

I want to hear from you. Besides my not-so-fabulous dating stories, what do you want to hear from me? I am listening. Leave a comment, send an email, tweet me – whatever you want. I definitely want to know (:

*Illustration by S. 

a new state of mind:

September 22, 2014


New York, concrete jungle where dreams are made of
There’s nothin’ you can’t do
Now you’re in New York
These streets will make you feel brand new
The lights will inspire you
Let’s hear it for New York, New York,
New York

Jay Z ft. Alicia Keys Empire State of Mind

Things are slowly falling into place and despite these past couple of chaotic, busy weeks, I finally feel (somewhat) happy with where I am professionally. Making footprints in the fields I want to: PR, Social Media and writing. I feel so blessed!

This verse captures New York entirely. The people, oh my gosh, the people and the ambiance, set you in this hustle-and-bustle mode. At first, I thought these words were carefully selected to create a chorus, but living here and growing, with a drive to succeed, New York really does set you in a different state of mind – an Empire State of Mind. 

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I love your vibe, New York. Foreal.

hefty first ‘date’

September 17, 2014

Tweeted that I don’t walk to talk about who I want to become or what I am doing with my life – for once. I know, this is hard to believe, right?

I want to meet someone where I can omit my identity as a writer and dreamer. And I got just that – I met him on Tuesday night before The Drum’s concert in Brooklyn.

A little nervous I have to admit, only because I am a tad rusty when it comes to dating, and well, you all know about my dating mishaps. If you miss that post, click here – you know you want to.

I like to skip the whole dinner and movie thing, and go straight to drinks. Dinner and a movie sounds overly committed in my book, and what if you’re boring or even worse, creepy? I have to stay throughout this three-course-ish meal? No, thanks.

We didn’t dive into the typical ‘first date’ questions. What is your favorite color?  Sure, we covered our jobs and careers, but very minimal. We chatted about politics, current reads, informative podcasts and some social issues. We had a discussion about media and a philosophical take on brand and identity, which was a lengthy discussion. Typically, I try to stray away from any “controversial subjects” such as politics and religion.

A total stranger, literally, challenged me intellectually. Not only he did that, but stimulated my mind. This was completely refreshing!

You know what was the best part? He did not look at me strangely when I said I am a feminist. His response was, “I am a feminist, too.” Swoon. Read this piece by the HuffPost Women.

So, back to the origin of this entry: I finally got to indulge in a complete conversation excluding my background. It felt awesome! It was nice to not talk about my career goals – because let’s be real here, that’s all I ever talk about! Consumed, I tell you.

But, I learned something, too. Our work, what we do, is a part of us. What we create are reflections of our souls; and if you’re working the 9-5, you are spending nearly 40+ hours with these people and doing whatever you’re doing. That is a part of you.

Alright family and friends, I’m off to bed. It’s nearly 1AM ET – thank you for checking in. And if you’re wondering if I will be continuing to write about my dating life…well, no promises there.

Goodnight, West Coast <3




everyone is a critic

September 15, 2014

We all produce things. For all my fellow artists, when it comes to our work, we can be a little sensitive about it, and I would say especially writers because some inspiration of our work comes from personal and real-life events. 

In a recent interview, I was asked, “How do you deal with constructive criticism from your colleagues?” I am sure you have encountered that question yourself when you’re going into an interview. I really think they ask this question to see your reaction.

Based upon my experience, from working in the fashion field to branding myself as a writer, I have to admit, it bruised my self-esteem when I first heard that my piece was not strong enough to engage an audience.

I pitched a story to a large digital outlet, that had a similar audience as Elite Daily, but more for a women demographic, and when she gave me her feedback, it stung. But she was being honest, and I don’t blame her.


Instead of the whole boo-hoo-why-me-solo-pity-party, I know what I have to do. Improve, obviously, if I want to continue to pursue the editorial industry, but also be meticulous about my craft. Continue to grow in all spectrums when it comes to writing.

Now, you may get the perception that I am being hard on myself, and not that is the case. I am just being real here. The purpose of the entry is to admit when you have made a mistake, or acknowledge your weaknesses. I have no problem taking ownership of my mistakes and identifying flaws (if any), to be better. The people who are making critiques are simply trying to help you strengthen your skills, essentially for your benefit.

From what I learned from organizing events and working with different businesses, you must learn to separate personal and business matters. When a constructive criticism is given – just take it. Learn from it. Don’t take it personal, and I know people find that difficult to digest.

In a sense, when criticisms are more on the heavier scale, like for a major project or event, to me that translates as rejection or failure. I don’t know about you, but I am still learning how to cope with rejection. Whether it be from dating or to not getting a job offer. It is all about toughening up, growing extra layer(s) of skin, and moving forward. 

It’s funny how this entire adventure will speak volumes about personal development as well as making my career footprints. Only time and hard work will tell.

To be frank, I am getting better at building the whole thick-skin part – sort of, at least when it comes to job rejections and honest feedback of my work. It sucks to hear, but it only motivates me to work relentlessly. 

Happy Monday, family & friends! I hope you are kicking off your week just right (:

*artwork by S.


September 12, 2014

I was never great at keeping up with my daily outfits or style posts. I give credit to those social media influencers, who are consistent in posting their outfits. One: It’s too much effort. Two: well, it’s just too much effort for me.

I’m a simple and lazy fashionista – if there is such thing. (I’ll share you my basic make-up routine later on to prove that I’m borderline low-maintenance/lazy).

Anyway, I mentioned in my last culture shock post that I want to re-introduce Style back onto my platform. Why not start with my daily essentials? Although it’s not much of a style post, but gives you an insight what I carry everyday when I am on-the-go. This is just the bare minimum by the way – it’s not including my water bottle, current reading material or my laptop.


What’s in my tote?

Tote: Zara, similar here; Wallet: Michael Kors, similar here; Sunglasses: Ray Bans Aviator, similar here; Portable charger; Moisturizer: Nivea; Lip products: NYX Matte Lipstick, MAC’s Chili and Lip Liner; Protein Bar: Clif’s Mojo; Mints: Altoids; Hand Sanitizer (MUST): Purell travel size; Journal & Pen, similar here.

I realize that I always carry more than one lip product, and it’s only because I forget to empty my bag, but when there is a last-minute outing, I can throw on color and jet! Easy, breezy!

That’s it – short & sweet for you all on this lovely Friday morning. Have a great weekend family & friends (:


What do you carry in your bag? 

Oh, and if you’re bored, here are some articles for some enlightenment: articles posted on HuffPost Women about the Evolution of Cat Calls and one for laughs, an ad to finding a Fall Boyfriend.

cliche, cliche?

September 10, 2014

My darling, you are allowed to fail without being a failure. You are allowed to make mistakes without becoming one. More opportunities will present themselves, you will find hope again.


We, as in you and I, tend to cling onto quotes and phrases that are relevant to the current moment in our lives. The quote above actually came out of a question from the “Ask Me” section through Tumblr. I did not notice that until I linked the quote’s origin and read the excerpt myself. Beautiful response in my opinion

A reminder to you and I that there is a silver lining or – to be trite, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Just a disclaimer, I am not sad or losing hope. Simply in an inspired and hopeful mood this early afternoon.

Happy Hump Day Friends & family!

backstage during nyfw

September 8, 2014

Goal: work at least one Fashion Week – consider that checked off my list. While this past week has been a whirlwind, from balancing between two gigs, getting home at late hours and my everyday duties such as writing, I somewhat survived.

Wanted to share some photos with you all – unfortunately the quality of the photos were taken on my iPhone – I had to be professional so no fangirling allowed, even if it was Uzo Aduba.


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Carmen Electra looked so flawless, and never realized how defined her features were! Uzo Aduba is such a sweet gal by the way. So many people walked up to her backstage asking for selfie photos and she didn’t decline any photos, and not to mention, Vivienne Tam’s dress look so good on her.

I’ll save the whole what I learned from Fashion Week for future interviews and on LinkedIn.

I have another event to attend tonight, but I am still recovering from the past week and slowly recharging for this week that I may just cancel my attendance. The weather today is kind of cloudy and rain will be coming in soon, so it causes me to be lazier. Blah.

Once again, thank you all for your continuous support, encouragement, and joining me on this journey as I establish myself!

Have a great Monday (:

a hell of a ride

September 4, 2014

Sometimes, I really need to sit back and embrace what is all happening to me, which is at a rapid rate.

You know when you imagine something or someone you desired for so long, and when it happens you’re in disbelief, an awe that you’ve gotten what you’ve always wanted? Sometimes, it’s not always in the shape or form you’ve always wanted, but something close or even better…

Don’t know if any of you have ever felt that way before, but this whole experience is pretty much like that. I live my life day-to-day and still in shock that I am chasing trains, waving down cabs, dining on 2nd Ave or running around Central Park. My life feels like a movie I’ve seen before…

That’s the crazy part.

I’m so grateful to be given this opportunity to assist a luxurious designer for Fashion Week. While I walked through the Lincoln Center yesterday, I couldn’t believe it. This is what I’ve seen and read about in the media, and here I am, given the chance to work behind stage.

fa I told myself that I have to at least work one New York Fashion Week (you can read that blurb here) and my life would be fulfilled in some way. It’s happening, friends and family.

I shall celebrate this small success because who knows what can happen after adding this under my resume, but I am willing to find out.

The day I get invited to a show, I will be squealing like a little girl. Oh wait – I do that enough already about Harry Potter and Ice Cream!

Have a wonderful Thursday friends & family and thank you all for those who congratulated. The support system I have is so freaking amazing. You guys are the best cheerleaders, ever! But I will say, hold off the congratulations until I announce the day when I become an Editor for a respectable and established publication.

Dare I say it? I just did, hahah!

With great love,

*illustration by S.

daily snippets: 02

September 2, 2014

The day-to-day sights of my life:

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I got an organic basil plant to grow in the loft. I been keeping up with watering it and making sure it gets sunlight, so I can pick the leaves when I cook. This is a symbolic plant by the way. Details later.

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Fitness has always been a part of my lifestyle, but now it is a little different. I been practicing more power yoga and running outdoors (when the weather doesn’t suck). Yoga is definitely challenging – and it’s not one of those calming classes. I’m talking about fast-paced-dripping-sweat kind of classes, so I am getting in a great workout. I also tried barre classes, which is a mixture of ballet, Pilates and yoga altogether. I would admit that my cardio has definitely improved – chasing those trains and climbing flight of stairs are really doing justice. Yesterday morning, I conquered 2 miles easily. To me, this is great news! So I won’t be huffing and puffing when I am running with Nike+ Running team.

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My favorite parts of the City are the building structures and the contrasts between them. Fire escapes and brick walls. It’s so eye-catching and I can’t help, but feel so giddy when I’m walking down streets and avenues.

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Shared this photo (above) on instagram. Remember how I mentioned free events? This was cool. My first outdoor movie in the City and got to share this experience with Jules. It was her first time seeing the film!

I welcomed in the new month great! The right intentions and that really makes a difference. Can you all believe it’s already September? Where is this year going? Seriously, freaks me out. My MetroCard expires next week, which means another renewal, but a reminder that I been here for another month. I’m so excited to see the season change in the next few weeks! Ah!

For all you party hardy folks, hope you’re waking up on this fine Tuesday well. Let’s get this week moving!

ta-ta for now! (:

see, feel & believe

August 31, 2014

Visualize this thing you want. See it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin. – Robert Collier

I always tend to stay up the night before waking up early for obligations. Here I am, writing, thinking and over-analyzing with my twisted mind.

I came across this quote – thank you, Tumblr for always flooding my dashboard with such great inspiration – and I stopped scrolling, re-blogging and liking to really take in this quote by Collier. I sat back on my couch, and closed my eyes.

I envisioned my future self and where I want to be. Instead of Betty Suarez, it was me who was running around the streets of New York.

Is that cheesy? 

A quick write up – hoping to inspire those who may be hitting a block like myself. Keep going, keep believing. We mustn’t lose our hope and faith.

I bid you goodnight friends & family — I’ll share some photo snippets in the next post. Thanks for tuning in and showing the love (: