Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground – Wilfred Peterson
This was a great quote to kick off August and it’s so relevant to today’s post.
Humans are interesting – maybe that is why I love learning about people. But I am one of those people who not only wants a good time, but to connect. Do you crave that, too? I am very careful with who I a surround myself with.
I remember when I first arrived to New York, I was on the hunt to connect with like-minded people, especially women. I wanted to immerse myself into friendships that cultivated ambition, similar values, career-driven and simply, cool babes.
I wrote this article published on CityElla about Making Girlfriends in the City. Initially, it did not catch much traffic, but in time and in small doses, I would get comments on instagram and emails about meeting up. I was in shock! There were women who wanted to connect and felt the same emotions as I did.
The power of words, I tell you. Even to this day, I am making new friends and it is nice to meet women writers who share the same passions as you do, but expressed so differently.
Where am I going with this? Finding and making friends is hard (but give it time for it to unravel). Especially when you are a transplant in a new environment. Tell me, when was the last time you made a new genuine friend?
Also, what I am learning is that in the hustle and bustle of life, it is easy to get wrapped up in your mundane routine, dismiss social invitations and hang with certain crowds. However, the relationships worth saving are the ones that are reciprocal – there has to be some effort there. This rule is heavily applied to my long-distance relationships – with time zone differences, it is hard to schedule phone calls, and FaceTime dates, but that doesn’t stop me for trying to make a friendship work.
It is really nice to surround myself with women who share the same wave lengths plus share the same moral values in basic human goodness. I value my friendships because good people are rare to come by.